Musings about gender norms, hustle culture, perfectionism, boundaries, listening to your body, making space for joy, slowing down, and building a life from the inside out...for starters.
My middle space: from rebellion π to softness πΌ
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I feel like I'm floating somewhere in space.
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An uncomfortable yet familiar middle.
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Maybe this is what they call liminal space?
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ChatGPT says:
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A liminal space refers to a place or a moment that exists between two different states β like a transition zone. The word "liminal" comes from the Latin limen, meaning "threshold."β β In human development, a liminal phase is a time when a person is no longer who they used to be, but not yet who they are becoming. Itβs a kind of identity twilight zone.
Yup.
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Navigating these liminal spaces feels like a huge part of being human.
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The view from my in-laws' condo in Florida.. My youngest took this, and it's the perfect representation of this liminal space.
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What inspired this journey to the middle? Some part deep within me craves an answer to that question, but there is no succinct response.
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The goal seems to be meeting, welcoming, and accepting these transitions with gentleness.
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As edgy and uncomfortable as it feels, it also feels familiar. The awakening that led me to create this business was realizing how I was complicit in creating a life where I put my needs last. There was a wide liminal space between that realization and the change that I craved coming to life. I had to sit in the "unknowing," which felt like possibility and pain all at once.
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I mourned.
β I felt a whole lot of anger.
β I became focused on rebellion β a whole lot of "f*ck the patriarchy" energy.
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I cut most of my hair off.
β I moved my wedding ring to my right hand because f-that antiquated, patriarchal institution.
β I overspent my energy proving myself as an activist. I created a business called Done Being Good. My energy felt very outward-focused.
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This version feels wiser, older, and slower. I feel a shedding. I feel some sadness. I feel a lot of curiosity. Does this space feel familiar to you?
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I feel myself moving from externally-focused energy to something quieter - a quest for softness and unfolding, the way a bud finds its way into the world and then blossoms into something extraordinary. The way nature transforms in harmony with the changing seasons. I want to move in harmony with my seasons β not fight against them or stuff them away or deny them.
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Welcoming, accepting, and protecting my tender and every-transforming humanity feels like the biggest f*ck you possible to systems of oppression.
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I will keep fighting for a world that celebrates, protects, and provides resources for every soul but right now, for me, the path to that is cultivating resources, safety, and celebration for my own human-ness and working 1-1 with women who want to reconnect with their own internal wisdom.
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Wishing you many glorious moments of peace and springtime joy,
Musings about gender norms, hustle culture, perfectionism, boundaries, listening to your body, making space for joy, slowing down, and building a life from the inside out...for starters.
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